Jennifer Rehor is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT), an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist (CST), and a Clinical Supervisor. She is the founder and owner of Affirming Therapy Center (ATC) in San Diego, California, a group private practice with a team of sex-positive clinicians who are committed to serving people of gender, sexual, and relationship diversity (GSRD), including LGBTQ, heterosexual, kink, BDSM, sex work/adult industry, single, monogamy, non-monogamy, swinging, polyamory, and a variety of relationship dynamics and family configurations.
As a polyamorous, kinky, bisexual woman with a traditional and religious upbringing, Jennifer understands both liberal and conservative perspectives. And as a first-generation American and a Sephardic Jew with roots in Egypt, Syria, Turkey, Greece, Italy, Spain, and Portugal, she appreciates the diversity found within and between cultures.
Jennifer’s personal involvement with kink began in 2003, when she started attending workshops, play-parties, and kinky weekend retreats. Throughout this journey, she has identified with many roles and titles — yet these experiences do not entirely define her identity. She also enjoys attending theater, volunteering at a children’s ballet studio, photography, performing on stage, taking dance classes, and gardening.
Julia Schiffman is a Registered Associate Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist, sex educator, and community activist. Julia earned her Master of Social Work from the USC and received a certificate of completion in Sex Therapy & Sexuality Education from the Sexual Health Certificate Program (SHCP) at the University of Michigan.
In San Diego, Julia provides therapy services in her private practice, focusing on trauma-informed and relational issues with individuals and couples, specializing in sex therapy, LGBTQ couples therapy, and alternative relationships (kink, BDSM, non-monogamy, polyamory, sex work/adult industry). Julia finds the opportunity to co-author Women and Kink: Relationships, Reasons, and Stories with Jennifer as the perfect chance to create a resource for women, written by hundreds of women. In addition to authoring a book, Julia loves being creative through antiquing, thrifting, and attending high tea whenever she can.
What We Talked About
In this episode, co-authors of Women and Kink, Jennifer Rehor and Julia Schiffman join us to talk about their book, the process of writing it, right from research to the reports, and fascinating stories from the women and kink community that are highlighted in the book.
Jennifer is a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified sex therapist and author whose passion is to help people live a more fulfilling life.
Julia is an associate clinical social worker, author, and community activist with a focus on helping people find the connection and compassion that they deserve in their relationships.
[00:25] The book you should be reading right now
[01:40] Jennifer’s original research for her Master’s thesis.
[02:59] The ‘shit’ in the world of medical research
[11:26] Kink is more than a novelty
[12:06] Lessons from the space between sexual likes, dislikes, and people that do it daily.
[16:29] The balance between desire and everyday life
[20:47] Creating a flexible relationship agreement
[22:31] The perfect partner: does it exist?