Therapeutic Use of BDSM ft. Elyssa Rice

This week, Erika chats with fellow therapist, Elyssa Rice, about the therapeutic elements of BDSM in addition to its more obvious fantasy ties. They turn over some common myths and misconceptions about kink, cover the importance of consent, and enlighten us on the power dynamics found in BDSM relationships as well as how they can help individuals rescript some past traumas.
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What we talked about
Debunking BDSM myths and misconceptions
- Not widely practiced
- BDSM is abusive
- Submissives have no power
- BDSM is inherently sexual
- BDSM always perpetuates trauma- this is a very tricky topic, perhaps not one you would want to get into. Lots of research still needs to be done but many of us are assisting clients in using their kink play to help process trauma.
- 50 shades is accurate (dear lord, why?!)
- BDSM practitioners cannot be feminists
- Bonding on Netflix is the show that Erika couldn't remember.
Ask Erika: Am I doing it wrong? What happened to me that made me like this?
More about Elyssa
From Elyssa's website:
“In my practice, I strive to create a shame and judgement-free environment, encouraging self growth and more importantly vulnerability. I believe that our work together is sacred and deeply embedded in respect, connection, and trust. I recognize that in beginning our work together, I will be a stranger to you and that I must earn the trust and respect that is so vital in a healthy therapeutic relationship. This is why I work at the pace of my clients, pushing when I feel is appropriate but also being mindful of where you are at. I strive to create a space where empathy and care are unconditional, allowing for the ideal environment to truly heal. While I have extensive knowledge and education in the mental health field, I believe my greatest tool is my intuition. I practice from a perspective that my clients are the experts in their own lives and I am simply a guide to uncover the blind spots that may be out of sight.”