Abbie Rolf of Healing Village Therapy

Erika brings back Abbie Rolf to talk about why the words we use to describe each other, our genitals, and much more have a lot of meaning. We talk about how the Trans community is especially affected by the evolution in language around sexuality. Let's talk about common words around genitalia!

What we talked about

  • Why does it matter?
  • What are some examples of terms used in the trans community?
    • Pronouns – They, He, She are commonly used to distinguish the gender that someone identifies themselves as.
    • Partner – Someone with whom you engage in sexual activity.
  • Gender neutral folks do use genitals.
  • Euphemisms are based on stigma and discomfort around discussing sex and the body.
  • Common euphemisms for genitals
  • Why is it important to find out what your partner(s) uses?
    • Comfort, communication, consent.
  • Common examples of genital names transgender folks use
    • Front or Bonus Hole
    • Peen or Penis, dicklet, click
  • Some people may be comfortable with anatomical terms consistent with their SAAB (Sex Assigned at Birth), some may be comfortable with anatomical terms from other SAAB, some folks may use a euphemism or another word. 

Books or Resources Mentioned in the Episode

Abbie's practice (Healing Village Therapy)

SAAB (Sex Assigned at Birth)
PFLAG (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays)
GLAAD  (Gay & Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation)
S. Bear Bergman
Trans-Education Facebook Group

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